I’ve been taking some time off to finally do my 100 list. A friend and I agreed to do these several weeks ago, and for some reason I just haven’t yet, so it’s time.
The exercise incorporates a lot of things we already know but I, at least, almost never put into practice.
1. ASK for what you want. Even the Bible, and a lot of writings a lot older than that—say, “ASK, and you shall receive.”
(NOT: “Hope your spouse/best friend/mom/boss/daughter/lottery office can read your mind and give you exactly what you were desperately, but silently wishing for…..and be sad/hurt/angry/resentful when they don’t.”)
Sounds simple, doesn’t it? It hasn’t been for me. I’m not used to being vocal, or even very honest, about what I want. Even what I need. I wrote about this a couple of weeks ago (http://choose2bhappynow.blogspot.com/2009_09_24_archive.html), and it’ll likely be an ongoing effort.
And ASKING for what you want isn’t the all of it. You need to ask RIGHT. Ask for what you want as clearly, specifically, and with as much detail as you possibly can.
And since it’s harder to GET what we want, until we KNOW what we want,
2. MAKE A LIST….……..……..The 100 list ©
A list of 100 things that describe what it’s like to HAVE what you want, NOW. Present tense. POSITIVE terms. How it FEELS, how it TASTES, how it LOOKS, how it SMELLS, what it WEARS, what it MEANS, what you DO. Be as SPECIFIC as possible.
NOT the 100 things that WILL BE wonderful WHEN you get what you want.
The 100 things that ARE wonderful, right NOW, when you ALREADY (as if you already) have EXACTLY what you want.
Beyond your wildest dreams.
You need to really FEEL it, to be it. Picture it, see yourself already there.
You can do this for EACH of the major goals in each of the major areas of your life, like
Your HEALTH or fitness goals;
Your WEALTH goals;
Your SPIRITUAL goals;
Your RELATIONSHIP goals;
Your PERSONAL GROWTH goals;
For me, this means taking one goal at a time. And right now, A. and I decided that we both wanted to work on this one: That we both want someone special in our lives. For the rest of our lives.
It’s important to just start writing. Picture yourself already there, and describe it.
Part of my list might look like this:
My 100 list ©
1. I feel safe and loved when he wraps his arms around me and holds me tight.
2. He loves everything I bake!
3. I love that he makes me laugh so hard that it’s hard to breathe.
4. His butt looks great in jeans.
5. We go on lots of great diving trips—he’s my favorite dive buddy ever.
You don’t have to do the whole list at one sitting, but get started and get it done. Imagine yourself in the situation, and describe it—how it looks, feels, tastes, smells, sounds. How you feel there. The things that are important to you. The more specific your list, the clearer the image, the closer you are to already being there.
This is not about changing someone into someone else.
This is about YOU.
ASKING for what you want.
Years ago, Debbie Ford told me something her rabbi (I think) had once told her:
“You are nothing but a speck of dust --
the whole Universe was created just for you.”
The 100 list is about creating your Universe.
Describing your world, the one you LOVE to live in!
When I finally started writing, I was amazed at some of the things that tumbled out. The ‘man of my dreams’ is a really great guy…
I can’t wait for you to meet him sometime.
Now start writing.